12 Tips To Make Someone Fall In Love With You
Want to make someone fall in love with you? Here are 12 easy steps to achieve this.
Making eye contact with someone not only lets them know you’re attracted to them, it can also make them fall deeper into you. Why? Because making eye contact is one of the behaviors of couples who are in love.
According to a study by Zick Rubin, a former associate professor at Harvard University, lovers spend 75 percent of their time together staring at each other; ordinary people spend 30-60 percent doing the same thing. By encouraging someone to look you in the eye by maintaining eye contact with them, you can direct that person’s mind toward love. “The last time they made eye contact for a long period of time, they fell in love,” says sex expert Dr Pam Spurr. “So, in theory, this could trigger their brains to remember what it’s like to fall in love again.”
Focus on what you have in common
That doesn’t mean you have to follow your habits, does it. Perhaps focusing more on the things that make you two in common, which helps in creating attraction. “We may not realize it, but we have a tendency to go after people who have different interests or backgrounds from ours, but use the same expressions as us,” says Spurr.
Researchers from the University of Liverpool found that we are more likely to chase people who have the same face as us. This is because humans see facial attributes as clues about that person’s personality. Laughter lines, frown lines, smile widths, all are indications of how a person really is – outgoing, friendly, shy, emotional – so we look for those who are facially compatible with us.
do not exaggerate
The reasons are pretty obvious: they know it, you know it too, and it’s not going to have any good in the future. “It’s natural to adjust your behavior a little bit, but if you go to the point of faking all aspects of your personality or pretending you like something you don’t know anything about, you’re only going to get into trouble,” says sex therapist Dr Ian Kerner. “Sometimes, yes, you can find yourself liking something you’ve never tried before and that’s okay. So feel free to try new things that your boyfriend likes, but if you don’t feel like it, leave. You can also encourage your boyfriend to switch positions and see if he likes what you like.”
This might sound counterintuitive, but it’s not. Familiarity doesn’t produce saturation (unless they didn’t like you from the start, in which case, well, you’re doomed). In fact, the more time you spend together, the more likely he is to like you. “In the promotion of goods, advertising is mostly successful because you are exposed to the goods on a regular basis,” says Kerner. “The same thing happens with humans, the more time you spend together, assuming you already have a connection from the start, the more you will like each other.”
Have you met often? Disappear for a moment.
Okay, maybe not disappearing from the face of this earth, but at least enough so that they can feel homesick and remember how fun it was to walk with you. “New couples often go through a stage where they see each other too often as if they were living together,” explains Spurr. “Then maybe there will be a time when that feeling of enthusiasm starts to wear off. Before that happens, hold on to the feeling and step back a little.” Make time for your friends, meet your family, or even work late. “It’s not a matter of playing games but it can give you a better feeling of controlling your emotions and strengthening your partner’s emotions.”
Ask for their help
Admit it, we all like to feel needed. The reason is simple: if someone needs your advice, needs your help doing something that’s hard to do, looks to you when they’re sad, all of those things make you feel better about yourself. Feeling needed can also make someone who is insecure calmer.
Yes, humans are happy when they feel needed. No, humans don’t want to be in a position where they feel like you’re going to break if you don’t have them. “A woman who knows what she likes and puts a lot of effort into getting it looks very attractive,” Kerner said. “In fact, when a woman like that suddenly needs someone, it makes her even more valuable. Because it’s as if they need that specific person, not just anyone.”
“When people seem to enjoy your jokes or stories, it makes you feel more confident,” says Kerner. “And that, in all probability, makes us feel sexy. When you can make someone feel that way, that person will start to associate that feeling with you.”
Be a good friend
This one is supposed to be a reflex but is often forgotten. “Playing hard to get, teasing someone, acting fragile are some great ways to ‘trick’ someone into falling in love with you,” said Spurr. “But the truth is, if you want someone to truly fall in love, friendship is key. When they are with you, they will feel safe. Playing around might get someone’s attention but in the long run it gets tiring.” Being a supportive person, listening to his complaints, making him laugh, helping him feel good about himself and life as a whole, these are things that can make someone really appreciate your presence.
Feed them (not literally… unless you want to)
Have you ever heard the saying: “The way to a person’s heart is through his stomach?” A very cliché sentence, but also very true. “This is a surefire way to make someone feel loved,” says Spurr. “This refers partly to a sense of being cared for and partly to the fact that hunger for food is a basic thing that must be met. If someone brings you a plate of hot food doesn’t that make you love him more?” According to an informal vote in Men’s Health, a steak sandwich or baguette topped with fried onions and mushrooms would be much appreciated… if served with a cold beer, of course.
Love is a reciprocal thing. You can’t expect them to love you if you don’t love them from the start. Then, what does all this mean? “Sometimes we want someone to fall in love with us because we need to feel wanted. In fact, we don’t love that person,” said Spurs. “Ask yourself how you feel about that person. Do you accept him as he is now? Appreciate him and his presence in your life? Do you appreciate all the things he did for you? If not, maybe you just want to be loved without loving.”
This is the first and last step. Because if you don’t really love yourself, your partner will find it hard to love you too. See yourself as the ultimate prize because, to the right person, you will look that way to him. To feel good about yourself you have to learn to appreciate the good things you have. And by that I mean everything you can see in the mirror and what you can’t. It’s also not referring to the new and expensive items in your closet, your skills at the office, it’s about loving yourself as a person.
“Know yourself, know your outgoing, careful, kind, inspiring, calm under pressure, empathetic, whatever. Anyway, this is the first step to loving yourself,” Kerner explained. “After that, allow your partner to see your best attributes as often as possible.” Put yourself in a position where you can shine